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April 10, 2010
Note from the President Greetings Colleagues! Show up, or choose to be present.
Warmly, Frances Shuster, PCC
Our Monthly Newsletter The Gift of Coaching Presence How do you create this “coaching presence?” It is about letting your real self show through. It begins as you get centered before the call and put aside problems from your own life events for the moment to be there for your clients. “Centering” means remembering the person you want to be as a coach. It helps you be respectful and to listen without bias. When you show up as your real, caring self, you earn deep trust from your client. You are open to not knowing and willing to take risks. You see many ways to work with your clients and trust your gut to choose in the moment what might be most effective. You use gentle humor to create lightness and energy that conveys your presence. Professional coaching frequently happens over the phone. So voice tone and deep listening for underlying themes and assumptions communicates your presence. Coaching also occurs face-to-face. This can sometimes be more difficult because of the distractions involved with the visuals of context, body language, and dress. These distractions can interfere with your listening skills. But it can also be fun getting to know your client in this personal way, if you are lucky enough to live near each other. You can select a place for your conversation that is consistent with who you are as a coach. Will you meet in a park? A coffee shop? A study room in the library? When you coach through email, your presence is felt in your careful word choices. Use of caps and punctuation is essential to communicating your intentions. Use of emoticons can help with visualizing your facial expressions and getting your meaning accurate. Your coaching presence is confirmed not only by your words, but also by your chosen vocabulary, and how comfortable you are in your identity. Letting your presence show through means setting aside your own issues, and committing to being there for the other person in a friendly way. The client will read your presence and will sense your intention. Your presence will linger with the client like a delicate perfume long after the session ends.
Linda Micheal is a Professional Certified Coach and Director of Programs for Region 8 ESC in Indiana. In addition to providing professional development for northeast Indiana schools, she has a consulting business that does executive coaching for the administrators of youth-serving agencies. Marceta Reilly is a Professional Certified Coach and founding member of Coaching For Results, Inc. She is co-author of the book, Coaching Conversations: Transforming Your School One Conversation At a Time which is due out this month. For more information on Marceta Reilly and Linda Michael as well as our other coaches, go to www.coachingforresultsglobal.com and click on coaches.
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The ICF coaching competency of Co-Creating the Relationship combines the “best friends” of Establishing Trust and Intimacy and Coaching Presence. In our journey for mastery and excellence, coaching presence is the hallmark of an excellent coach. It is being open, flexible, and confident with your clients. You are giving them the gift of time, full attention, and deep listening. Coaching presence helps create a special and strong bond between coach and client. 
Presence-Based Coaching addresses working with presence, both within yourself and in your coaching and developing of others. It maps ways presence accelerates and deepens the human development process and offers practices for accessing presence. Additionally, the book offers inner and relational coaching moves for bringing presence into coaching.
